Put on pause: is abstinence so harmful for women and how to replace the absence of a partner
Can it be that the importance of sex in our lives is overestimated? Is it worth throwing yourself into the pool of one-time relationships “for the sake of health” and compliance with certain norms? There are many well-known ways to get sexual pleasure in “mono mode”. The main thing is to remember the nuances.
When ladies are shy to admit it
Not everyone will tell you that they have not had sex for a long time. Even in the company of close friends, you do not always dare to make such a revelation. And all because having sex has also become a part of success, without which there is nowhere in modern life. They say that if a woman does not have a partner, it means that no one wants her, or she does not know how to build relationships, or even worse — in bed, she is a log! Yes, and doctors vying to say that despite different temperaments and appetites, the normal dose of sex is two or three times a week. And if it is less or not at all? We asked a number of questions to our expert.
the doctor-sexologist, psychotherapist, psychiatrist
How much can a woman do without sex and can Masturbation replace it?
“Much depends on the sexual Constitution (sexual appetites of a person, his needs for sex-approx. ed.). In a woman with a weak sexual Constitution, abstinence, that is, abstinence, does not have any painful sensations either from the mental sphere or from the gynecological one. Congestion in the genitals can contribute to some extent, but not necessarily guarantee the development of gynecological pathology. No wonder gynecologists in the XIX century called myoma a disease of nuns.
For women with an average and strong sexual Constitution, abstinence is more painful. If we are talking only about gynecology, then Masturbation can completely neutralize the pathological consequences of not having sex. Provided that orgasms are achieved on a regular basis”.
Someone has not had sex for years — what problems can this lead to?
“Not only the physical component is important, but also the mental one. A person wants to love and be loved. Affection, emotional attachment, intimacy-all this is worth a lot, it improves the quality of life, helps to cope with problems, sometimes even gives meaning to life. And it’s not just about sex, but about deeper meanings and concepts. Of course, a person can adapt and live without relationships, but life in love is still more fulfilling.”
How important is regular sex for a woman? And how often is regular?
“Of course, regular sex life with a loved one makes a woman happier. Improves both mental and physical health. As for the frequency, it really depends on the sexual Constitution of a woman, and on the capabilities of her man. This should be a joy, not a burden, because this is not the norm of the TRP. Knowing your true needs and realizing them is the way to harmony with yourself and your partner.”
What are the disadvantages of Masturbation worth knowing? Or is it exceptionally useful?
“It’s not that simple with Masturbation. On the one hand, the process contributes to orgasmic discharge, hormone balance, mood improvement, and prevention of gynecological diseases. On the other hand, there are maladaptive ways of Masturbation (such as shower jet, vibration). In this case, the woman trains her body to respond to specific stimuli, sometimes in cases when she later finds a man, it may be difficult for her to get an orgasm during classical sexual intercourse.
Or another option: a woman is only aroused when viewing pornography. The less realistic the scenarios for her life, the more difficult it will be to be aroused by classical stimuli.
In addition, there is another point. The more satisfaction there is in the “mono mode”, the less need and need to search for these feelings in a pair. That is, on the one hand, it seems to be an adaptation, and on the other hand — the lack of motivation to arrange a personal life. But to each his own. I personally believe that everyone can find their soul mate, for this it is important to know yourself, be able to look for what you need, be able to build relationships and maintain them. Try. Search. If it doesn’t work, contact a sexologist. It is important to build the right search and selection strategy, recognize mistakes, and correct them.”